Sunday, June 29, 2014

Be Weak, Simple, And A Fool for God!

Be Weak, Simple, And A Fool for God!              By Kelly Durant 6-29-14
1 Corinthians 1:27 But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty;
2.I just had a few weeks of vacation! When you tell people I am (was) on vacation, they usually ask, where did you go? Some people want to discover what adventures you got to do that they wished they could do but can’t because of some reason, right? Well, at this point in my life I enjoy the simple things; a mind vacation at home was good enough for me without the stress of worrying about expensive hotels and bills! Thank God Regina had a safe trip and she was busy with her mom sick in bed!
As much adventure as I have already had in my life in my past, I am not dying to visit some over-rated big city advertised with pretty pictures but when you are there the reality hits when you walk on the filthy smelly streets being surrounded by threating frightening looking people. I have a special love for every place I have been, but I am glad I was not in the crowds of Rio for the World Cup! I had to run for blocks being chased to be robbed 3 times when I was there and got away by grabbing a bus! And besides you see the game better on TV than live!
There is a lot of wisdom in having a simple lifestyle and simple appetites. There is wisdom in just being happy with life & God itself! The world thinks you are stupid when you are simple though, ha! You can transport yourself to different worlds just by reading the Bible, and with some other good books! Consider… Proverbs 23 “When thou sittest to eat with a ruler, consider diligently what is before thee:2 And put a knife to thy throat, if thou be a man given to appetite.3 Be not desirous of his dainties: for they are deceitful meat.” There is a lot of wisdom in just being happy with simple things and not ambitious or lavish!
3. Travel can be risky and I think many of us don’t like to be in situations where we feel we do not have the absolute control with what is going on around us. Some people rarely even leave their homes just because they are afraid of people and new situations! It is a fact, most of us recognize our human weaknesses and we don’t always like to have them, but God uses weakness to turn them into strengths if we let Him. No one likes feeling foolish, vulnerable, weak, inadequate, small, or un-noticed; it goes against our nature, but God wants us to recognize our frailty so we depend on Him for everything! God chooses the weak and foolish things (people like you and me) of the world to confuse the proud, arrogant, and confused sophisticated! Knowing you’re weak makes you trust God!
Reflecting on my past travels, I think the best thing in my life to kill my youthful pride was the humiliation of having to adapt to the unfamiliar customs and learn 3 languages (Portuguese, Spanish, ASL). When one is young and cool with the cool clothes but then you have to be in the shoes of a toddler again repeating a word 50 times to learn it, can make you reach the point of going crazy! But God puts us all in certain situations in life so we can learn to depend on Him, learn His simplicity, meekness, weakness, humility and lowliness. The meek will get exalted and inherit the earth, but the proud will always take a fall! Have you already accepted the fact that you need to make yourself humble & foolish in order for God to use you?
Thank God His Word has an answer for everything. I recall this verse when learning my first words in other languages, “But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise;” I felt like a fool all day long for months on end and in another country you cannot depend on anything you have learned before, laws, customs, foods, music, everything is different! Thank God I did learn enough in each language to lead Bible classes and preach the gospel. After accepting you are just a fool (or look like one) for Christ, then God can work.
4. But being in a ‘weak’ or humble position in order for God to use me (or you) involves more than skill or language; it is mostly an attitude or heart issue. I had to accept the fact that I was going to sound like a fool when talking to strangers, and I had to accept that obeying God meant becoming to the “Greek as a Greek”; it was a serious matter. Obeying God means becoming weak by giving up your pride, your knowledge, your culture, your ideas, your dreams, everything in order for God to use you for what He has planned for you. He is always active in your and my life!
The problem with weakness is that it is often misunderstood. Weak and foolish does not mean one should think you are humiliated and miserable; weakness means the acceptance of being like Jesus, who as the innocent lamb of God exemplifying the gentle character that should live in me and you! Matthew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. Our comfortable human default mode of wanting to appear strong, smart, and aggressive disquiets our spirit and is counterproductive to God’s mission of Him being able to use us!  
Two things: Don’t imitate humbleness and don’t be aggressive! Have you ever known people who try to appear so nice in public, like they are a poor weak victim in society? But you know by watching them closely the deduction is that at home they are probably a fierce character? A strong in-the-flesh person, as long as they believe they will get their way with you by being loud and manipulative, by being mean, by being a pest until you cave to them, is not useful to God! (Plus they are a menace to others) Human strength and belligerent-ness is rebelliousness, and for this reason God wants to break and mold everyone into a new creation! He is the potter, we are the clay. (and remember, the clay must be soft)
5. As Christians we practice meekness and this clashes with the world’s values! Many people try to manipulate my wife and I (and Tania) all the time for extra food, toys, or book-bags; it can get trying to deal with people who appear to be lying, people who are not always nice and pleasant. But God gives us the patience and grace for them, actually even a pity for them knowing they must live in misery because of living with their own character! These are people without Jesus in their hearts; these are people who live in darkness who suffer in life thinking everything is the fault of everyone else for their problems, when actually their bad times is usually a reaping of their pride  and of what they have sewn.
These are the world’s people and we want to win them for Christ, but what Paul had an issue with was the church in Corinthians is that they were Christians but they were not holy and conforming to the meekness of Jesus that should be practiced in our Christian behavior. How bold (and funny) for Paul to tell the know-it-all philosophical, prideful warlike Greek people to become foolish and weak for God! But if they were really Christian, then they were going to have to accept they had to become fools in their way of thinking and behaving.
Actually in this Corps there are many here that truly have learned weakness and are mature in Christ. Don’t you agree that many here are wise, Biblically studious, and intelligent and usually show a meek and humble spirit, willing to proclaim Jesus serving others in love? Thank God for you! You model what others can be!
6. Since everyone must learn foolishness and meekness I suggest you try some Corps leadership positions. Often Corps leaders face the Dean Martin situation of having ‘too many chiefs and not enough Indians’! To accomplish anything we need a team and people who are Faithful, Available, and Trainable (FAT) but often we have undependable, absent, know-it-alls to work with!
History and cultures repeat themselves and the vast majority of Christians will always have the challenge of learning to be nothing and a nobody clashing with the world. 1 Corinthians 4:10 We are fools for Christ's sake, but ye are wise in Christ; we are weak, but ye are strong; ye are honourable, but we are despised.
Yet many people in the church today have become like the proud Corinthians in Paul’s day. They are adapted to the culture lifted up in pride by praises for their intellectual achievements (humanism), lifted up in their pride over their power positions and professions. All these, ‘I did this’ things clash with the foolish appearing, weak and humble spirit of Godlike attributes that Jesus taught us.   
7. What is amazing is that despite all the negative mockery form the media we can still see examples of public people being fools for Christ sake. For example, ‘The Duck Dynasty Show.’ Who would have ever thought that a bunch of Southern hillbilly Christians with beards would stay on TV for 5 seasons? They have been mocked and persecuted for standing firm on Christian values. Funny how God chose them to get His Word out, while the big atheistic TV networks scratch their heads in jealousy, confounded by their humility, popularity, and success.  
How many testimonies have we already heard about how one humble weak little nobody Christian became the example and humiliation of some prideful giants? Look at one weak, old, short, not-so-pretty lady that got worldwide attention for her extraordinary love and care for the sick and suffering, Mother Teresa. Overlook her religion if that bothers you, and be thankful that she gave everyone an example that any Christian can be a sweet servant despite all odds of poverty.
It is so important to learn to be willing to be a fool for Christ sake! Hundreds of times when I was out giving out Christian tracks or going door to door people would say, “Ok, I’ll listen to you then you listen to me”, and I’d say, “Deal”. I’d tell them about salvation then they would complain to me about all the evils the gringos had done to mess up their country. I’d always answer in 3rd person, you are right, those gringos really are bad, I am sorry for your people, but all I want to do is love you, I am not a business tycoon, I am not a CIA spy, I am just a poor humble nobody missionary! Usually they were without words after that! Being a fool for Jesus means dealing with the foolishness in others! But humility wins.
 8. Have you prayed for wisdom and the Holy Spirit’s power to stand up to those who appear aggressive and strong yet they are nothing? Consider how the Greeks were actually the real fools because they, despite their philosophy and trained warriors, lost their kingdom and glory. Sadly, even today Greece has terrible woes in their society, bankruptcy and riots. Pride comes before a fall and it can be fatal.
Remember when you become weak then God is able to be strong in you!
We must recall that there is no way to change the way the world interprets strengths and weakness. For the people of the world, we will never as Christians never be considered strong and cool like the loud, indulgent, belligerent, rude, aggressive mocking faithless ones. We will always be considered as fools and weak people, but this contributes to making us holy, noble, and used by God!
9. This may sound crazy, but if you consider yourself incapable, weak, dependent on God, a fool for Christ, a humble nobody then be proud of it! Jesus said in Matthew 23:12 And whosoever shall exalt himself shall be abased; and he that shall humble himself shall be exalted. What a paradox, be strong by being weak!
It is a fact that some people in this life will never repent of their pride, sin, and trusting in their own strength to become humble ‘fool for Christ’, while others will struggle to give up everything for God. It is a process, it takes time but God is still working on you and me!

Think about this, if we are just like the people of the world copying their aggressive know-it-all character, what can we offer others that is better and different? The truth is humbleness, weakness, and being as a fool for God’s cause are virtues that make ordinary simple people like you and me become great! Pray the Holy Spirit will help you to grow more by becoming more useful to God by becoming simply ‘a fool for Christ’. You are chosen, so be what God expects you to be and see him work in strange and great ways through you!  

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Essential Christian Qualities

Essential Christian Qualities             Kelly Durant  10-13-02

1 Pet 1:1-16

1          Peter, an apostle of Jesus Christ, to the strangers scattered throughout Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia, and Bithynia, 2          Elect according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, through sanctification of the Spirit, unto obedience and sprinkling of the blood of Jesus Christ: Grace unto you, and peace, be multiplied.3          Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, which according to his abundant mercy hath begotten us again unto a lively hope by the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,4          To an inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven for you,5          Who are kept by the power of God through faith unto salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.6          Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations:7          That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ:8          Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory:9          Receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.10        Of which salvation the prophets have inquired and searched diligently, who prophesied of the grace that should come unto you:11        Searching what, or what manner of time the Spirit of Christ which was in them did signify, when it testified beforehand the sufferings of Christ, and the glory that should follow.12        Unto whom it was revealed, that not unto themselves, but unto us they did minister the things, which are now reported unto you by them that have preached the gospel unto you with the Holy Ghost sent down from heaven; which things the angels desire to look into.13        Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;14        As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance:15        But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation;16        Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.

How many of you have ever forgotten something in a restaurant and gone back to find that the owner had kept it for you? I forgot my cell phone in a Colombian restaurant the other day and they had it for me when I went back. Before, when I told friends we were moving to Colombia they would say, watch out, they will rob you there and they did rob us there!

But here and everywhere there is evil and that is why we are in God’s Army, to live a higher standard as children of the light, right? How good that makes you feel when someone watches for your things and returns them!

There are many qualities we will discuss that God expects us to have and Honesty is at the top of the list. In reality, honesty is not found in those who are not Christian, and if we as Christians are not better and different fro the world and honest, then we are salt without saltiness and worthless to God!

Now lets look at Integrity. Integrity means that we are whole, or that we are the same way in our homes, behind closed doors, as we are here in front of others. One of the biggest complaints we have all had about church people is that they are often hypocrites. They look so holy, and jump up and down crying out loud praising God on Sunday, but when they get home they return to their normal old bad selves, yelling at their mates or kids. We must learn to pray always before we do anything and we let any words out of our mouths, and be aware that we may be stumbling those of our own families if we do not have integrity. A Christian is a Christian all the time, not just here in the church but at work, and at home, and everywhere!

The next point is Faithfulness! You will recall what Jesus said to the servant who went into the glory of heaven, He said, well done thou good and faithful servant, enter into the glory of your Lord!

First of all Jesus wants us to be faithful to God, to serve and love Him alone above all things! Faithfulness is also put to the test when it comes to one man having only one mate and never betraying that person. Faithfulness means being committed to the cause of Christ and Christ works through people and being faithful to your church is very important thing since it is the work of the Kingdom of God on the earth in your community!

Let’s look at trustworthiness or dependability. How many of you have every tried to meet someone who told you a certain time and they were not there? It makes you mad right? A Christian is a person of their word; they say what the mean and mean what they say. When we are committed to doing something, we are dependable and they do not let you down. In the world out there, if you are not dependable to show up for work for two or three times, they fire you! Why is it some people think it is okay not to show up for church sometimes or for meetings? I think sometimes we forget how much God is watching to see how dependable we are, because if we want to be used by Him, then we must be present for Him to use!

Another thing is that Christians are to be Humble. Being humble does not mean you are a poor ignorant person that everyone walks over and takes advantage of, it means we do not carry our selves in a manner that is proud, acting as if we are more spiritual, knowledgeable, or better than our brothers. The Word says to esteem each person better than our selves. I remember there is a story about a Sergeant in the U.S. Army that no one could tell any thing to. One day he saw a soldier carry a pot and he stopped him and said, stop soldier! He started to put the ladle to his lips and the soldier said, Sir, wait sir, and he replied soldier don’t you know you are not to speak unless I ask you to speak. He said, Sir, yes, sir. When the Sergeant tasted the soup he spewed it out of his mouth and said, that soup is the worst thing I have every tasted! The soldier replied, if I could have explained sir, that was the dirty wash water, not a soup! It is true though that there are some people who are not willing to listen to anyone. Humility is asking advise from your pastor and brothers.

The next quality is Self-discipline! I like the idea we are called Soldiers instead of members in this church because that term soldier implies that we are disciplined. We all have the commission to obey Jesus and to resist temptation and be strong in our fight for the right. No one will ever prosper without discipline. Many wealthy people are very disciplines, they know that it takes hard work and saying not to many things in order to achieve a goal and be successful.

 And finally, be Industrious! We must work for the Lord while it is day and bring all the fruit for Him we can for Him. In Bolivia the Indians in Quechua say that as a morning greeting, something like this, ‘Mana canchu’, which means work hard, don’t be lazy! Review these points and live them for a blessed life!

Saturday, June 7, 2014

We Are the S.S.! Saved to Send!

We Are the S.S.!   Saved to Send!                                         By Kelly Durant   6-8-14
John 15:16-17  16 Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you. 17 These things I command you, that ye love one another.
2. How do you feel about getting chosen? When I was a kid I recall getting chosen to be the first to show the PE class how to do push-ups?! Embarrassing if you fail to make it a good show, right? Or the music teacher asks the class to stop and for you to sing alone; or the math teacher asks you to answer the math problem on the chalkboard in front? I don’t think many of us like to be chosen to do many things.  People get away with saying “no” too. But then some people will not ever volunteer so you have to ask them and chose them to do stuff you know is good for them even though they may hate it. But then you have to worry if they will finish the job!
After last weekend, going to many services and hearing the General (and the Mrs. General) Andre Cox many times, who are sincerely humble inspired people, you can imagine I could share so much! The graduating class that was commissioned were the “Disciples of the Cross”, and the theme was to “deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Jesus”.  Luke 9:23 And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. 24 For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it.
What was interesting to me was a new message of proclaiming the S.S. to mean Saved to Send. This year there will be 4 summer teams, not just 3, and they will go to Colombia, Kenya, India, and Louisiana. There are different kinds of teams, and these are teams of dozens of young people will go for 6 weeks to work in the Corps, orphan schools, and to evangelize on their mission. Jimmy Mestre went on a team before, and I hope others here from our Corps can go sometime in the near future as well, either for a week or for the whole summer. We know that after one works with poor and sweet people, it causes your life to have a whole new perspective! You may go to bless them with goods and labor, but in the end they bless you! 
3. Let’s discuss the S.S. meanings but before knowing what we know in the Salvation Army. As you are aware, Satan always wants to destroy the things of God by claiming for himself anything, a word, a symbol, colors, or anything to turn it into something evil, so that it will cause people to think of him instead of thinking of God. Here is a perfect example, the SS.
It took me sometime to accept that the S.S. had a new meaning of Saved to Serve, or Soup and Salvation, because after knowing WWII history the S.S. to me were the elite Nazi troops of Hitler! How many of you associated the S.S. to that? Take into account the original S.S. meaning was first coined by The Salvation Army.  It was an inspired concept from the beginning. And another acronym; using TSA today makes people think of the custom agents not us!
And the internet offers us a whole plethora of distorted meanings of common terms. For sermons, I search for images on Google and I am always annoyed that hardly anything means what it originally meant. Satan has made it harder to win people for God who have had their brains etched with thousands of songs and movies because everything to them has a new distorted connotation. One can speak of some term and they understand some other meaning, even speaking the same language! If I search the word “martyr” the first dozens of images are that of some horror film, not of Christians dying in the coliseum. And If I search “chosen” I also get some movie or gang tattoos. The point is you and I have a big job in getting others to understand the concepts and the simple things of God.  You and I must explain more, and redefine original meanings and intentions into language, into what we are communicating.
4. So what does it mean “saved to send”? Who is getting saved and sent? It all starts with you! You got saved, so did you go? In the verse of today Jesus is talking to everyone and he says in 16 (a) Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that ye should go and bring forth fruit. So what does chosen mean? Without a doubt, everyone is chosen! We have a “whosoever” faith, an “anyone” can be saved offer from the Lord, who calls out to all going through the already saved ones communicating His word which activates the Holy Spirit in their lives to have the conviction to be sent. But this always comes up discussing the chosen…
Matthew 22:14 For many are called, but few are chosen. Why are few chosen? Because not everyone answers the call to be chosen! God is never to blame for not offering salvation and a calling to the entire world; it is the blame of each individual if they do not respond to the message and the blame is on each Christian if they do not live the message, and “tell it”.
Similar to one being chosen is the “whosoever” concept from John 3:16, but listen to 17 &18  as well. John 3: 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. 17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. 18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
So to extrapolate, once “chosen’ we become saved and then “ordained” by Jesus (this implies an empowerment by the Holy Spirit) so then one goes on to bring fruit to God. There are several ways to interpret bringing fruit. One is by there being evidence that you are living a transformed life. Just as a plant grows over a period of time and then produces fruit, we are the same by comparison. We are familiar with Galatians 5:22 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law”. The reality is some of you master some of these things fairly well, but others of you do not. Maybe you are calm and have peace in God but you still need more love for others. Or maybe you have faith but need more meekness. Only God can show you where your weakness is at and all of us will always need to improve in bringing more fruit to God in our ever maturing, ever transforming, and ever holiness evolving character.
5. Another type of fruit is that for reproduction, the duplicating of yourself (in this case of Jesus) in the lives of others. What is fruit anyway? It is a watery encasing of a seed (and it tastes good: it is desirable to the eye and tongue). A grape, an apple, any fruit has a seed in the middle designed to be planted in the ground so that it makes more of its kind.  
To bear fruit for God is like raising children. How many of you have kids? Then you know about the sacrifice and the thousands of sleepless nights attending to them, about the giving up of your wishes for new clothes in order to buy them their clothes. Usually our children only learn to appreciate and value us as parents after they have had their own kids to learn about how much it taxes the body, spirit, and pocketbook.
So for Christians, every person that we share the faith with, every soul saved from us praying with them is our fruit for God and we are responsible to bring them up and sacrifice for them.  What is the big picture? Every Christian is “saved to share (the message)”, or “saved to send” their self and others out to reproduce and bear fruit by sharing the gospel of the love of God. Sending ourselves out implies sharing the gospel in “word and in deed”. Everyone must walk the talk proving the fruit we have in our maturity reflecting in our fruit in the many others we win to faith in Christ. How many have you won to Christ? It’s not too late, save and send yourself out!
6. What does it mean “that your fruit remain’? Jesus basically is saying we must be faithful to remain in Him all our lives bringing fruit to Him. We can remain by maintaining our faith by daily reading His Word and praying being obedient staying in fellowship with other believers. We remain by growing more in the spirit, maturing and producing the fruit of love in our lives which God expects. We have to work at it to grow!
What about the other fruit we produce, that of people? We cannot control if a person we win to the Lord in the faith will remain or not.  Some people last a few months and then they backslide and leave the Lord; this is not what we are expected to control, once you have done your part to win them and disciple them then they are in God’s hands. Well, there is the flipside that if you shared with someone about Jesus and then you just abandoned them like a newborn baby, then that would be something to repent of and feel bad about. But fruit that remains implies that you or someone is disciplining and preparing them so they can be sent out to save others as you were once saved and went.
To the suffering people in the world, we as Christians represent an elite class of people that are not stuck in the slime pit as they are; we are an army of hope and salvation, that cares and provides soup and salvation, saved to save, saved to serve, saved to send!
7. Reflecting on those Commissioned, here are the words on the “My Covenant” document the Cadets sign, a part of the diploma one receives when being sent and commissioned.  This is a promise my wife and I did, and it is what every Soldier should promise as well, in my opinion.
CALLED BY GOD to proclaim the Gospel of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ as an officer of The Salvation Army
I BIND MYSELF TO HIM IN THIS SOLEMN COVENANT
To love and serve him supremely all my days,

To live to win souls and make their salvation the first purpose of my life,

To care for the poor, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, love the unlovable, and befriend those who have no friends,

To maintain the doctrines and principles of The Salvation Army, and, by God's grace to prove myself a worthy officer.

(Done in the strength of my Lord and Saviour, and in the presence of (the following wording to be adapted to local circumstances) the Territorial Commander, training college officers and fellow cadets.)

What a high calling to love the unlovable and those who have no friends, to care for the poor, feed the hungry, clothe the naked! Have you ever done this ever or if so, how many times? Jesus calls all Christians to love unconditionally and to serve and teach others to serve and save souls. This means dealing with people we may despise, with people with serious sins, but no matter the sin, only God’s love (our example of it) can save them out of it!
8. Now the difficult part of verse 16, “that whatsoever ye shall ask of the Father in my name, he may give it you”. This implies that in order to have your prayers answered you must be in agreement with the previously established conditions of heeding God’s call to go out and bear to bear fruit . Everyone wants to get their prayers answered so what were the conditions again?
A person must let their self be chosen to obey! One is chosen to be saved (by Jesus), thus implying submission to Him who chose you. After that what happens? That person, being you or me or someone, must get ordained. Ordained is not some ceremony done by some leader in an institution, it is a spiritual ordaining from Jesus himself which is (taking into context the rest of the chapter) an empowerment by the Holy Spirit freely given to any follower.
Next, “that ye should go and bring forth fruit, and that your fruit should remain”, in other words you need to go and produce good character values in your own life maturing into a loving person you normally are not, and staying busy producing, or as discussed reproducing fruit which means you are getting more souls to follow Jesus.
9. And finally, how many times and in how many different ways do we need to hear Jesus tell us that it is imperative that we must love?  Verse 17 “These things I command you, that ye love one another”. So all of the above are commands all wrapped up in the fact that if we do not love, love God and others above everything, then we are nothing less than rebellious, disobedient, unfaithful, unwilling, ungrateful, unfruitful, unordained, worthless unchosen people! It is love that wins people to want to accept Jesus!
When the moment comes when someone asks, who will go, who will speak, who will serve? You should stand up and say, “Send me”! Where there is a need to love and to do a work for God, then ask God for the anointing  ordaining of the Holy Spirit to give you the grace and the power for the hour to just do it! It is like swimming, you just need to jump in the water!
Year after year we see Cadets in the Southern Territory get chosen in numbers of 40 or 50, and in 2016 they expect even 70 Cadets to answer God’s call unconditionally!  Doesn’t it amaze you how many thousands of people worldwide respond to the call in the Salvation Army? Complying with no control over one’s destiny, no control over much of anything! When we are submitted and obedient, under the condition of rendering fruit to God, then we gain the power of having God on our side as never before. What a blessing! I have meet so many people that want the privileges of being chosen but few are they that are willing to pay the price of living the chosen life; the one of dying daily and taking up your cross to do God’s will and not your own. Thank God for the ones that chose that, they are out there, and we must find them!
With the conviction the Cadets are willing to be sent should this convict you as Soldiers to follow a bit more closer as well as God allowing Him to reveal what direction to go in? If God is choosing you, if he spoke to you today, why not answer the call? Has God reminded you of a mission or a desire to serve in some way this morning?  Say to God, “Send me! I am saved to be sent!


   




Sunday, May 18, 2014

Respect Honorable Women or Everyone Suffers!

Respect Honorable Women or Everyone Suffers!  5-18-14   by Kelly Durant
Titus 2:3-5 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
2.It is a sad truth that women in general are not respected by more than half the world’s people today and it is a fact they never have been! Investigate for yourself how other major world cultures, religions, and communists treat women and you will be outraged and appalled! There is a current war on women in our culture! Our music has progressed from Elvis that would sing he was “All Shook Up’ in love to our current music which refers to women as “Bs” and sex objects only, something to own and exploit as property! Denounce it when you hear it!
The quote many men have lived by was what Plato voiced: “'I thank God, that I was born Greek and not barbarian, freeman and not slave, a man and not woman”. Why? The usual case is that women have lived with zero rights, zero respect, and are still women are considered property in many countries!
Some people always want to complain of the discrimination of women in the U.S. but here it is minimal compared to other places! Abortion of girls in China is so extensive that in coming up in just 5 years 30 million young men will not be able to find a wife! What a manmade crisis! Many in several nations fear that the frustration of these men will lead to aggression and war, internal and external.
Have you ever heard that one should judge a society by how it treats its most vulnerable members? How are the unborn, the babies, the elderly, the children, and the impaired getting treated? And of great importance, how are the women treated? 1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (God will not hear the prayers of those who mistreat women!) Identify and condemn those who are to blame for making women into just sex objects and slaves for labor exploitation. Our job is to love, esteemed, respect, and value women as intelligent industrious essential co-collaborators in the home and community!
3. The verses of focus begins in Titus 2:3 highlighting that God expects women as they mature to be strong influencers with their wholesome (holy) values, living a pure life. Women are exalted in the verses here inferring they are important and useful as teachers and mentors expected to share their acquired knowledge over the years about life and of the word of God with other younger women and to their children (and to the men as well).
Mothers always impact their children profoundly! Many single young men in jail or on the battle front when facing a breakdown or crisis have been known to cry out for consolation from mommy! We all recognize that the woman who incubated us and gave us life 9 after months, and raised us for 18 + years is important to our emotional and physical wellbeing!
Every mother must recognize that they are very important influencers and leaders in society creating either embittered monsters or sacrificial saints! Each person reaps what they sew and the boomerang of actions does come back haunt us. I knew one young Mexican man in prison and when I offered to bring his mother there to visit him as a favor he told me “No, I don’t want to see that whore”! Sad, right? She had a history of living with different men and he had suffered from the hand of many of them. We must teach this modern culture to get back to purity and holiness.
4. In history we observe that it has only been the word of God in the Bible practiced correctly that has brought women out of the darkness, of the depths of slavery and debasement, to being equal to the man in position in spiritual gifts and abilities. Jesus, by honoring his women followers, influenced many and eventually as the Bible got translated in many languages; it sparked a Renaissance and enlightenment of respect for women that we benefit from that in our democratic society today. It is a pity that the primitive church and still some churches today never matured in doctrine as the Salvation Army did to esteem women as equals ordaining them as ministers honoring them highly. Sadly still very few churches today ordain and respect women as equals, so you can be thankful that William and Catherine Booth got it right! Women have full rights here! Help us spread this good news!
Did you know when the Salvation Army was founded in 1865 that 60 to 70% of the initial members were young mothers and they were valiant preachers too! And today in this Corps, we expect the women and mothers to be leaders, not just to their children, but leaders in society being influential winning many over to the faith: souls saved for Jesus! Everyone listens when a wise woman speaks!
But I wish women today would start passionately speaking up more against social injustices! Help expose crimes such as rape, child-abuse, sexual trafficking, labor exploitation, domestic violence: women must demand that the people adhere to the standard of family values in the churches, schools, and city halls! If women are not defending the weak and family causes in their role, then they may fall for useless causes wasting time on popularized trends, and standing up for people who later become back stabbers to them. The causes that foment hatred towards men creating division and controversy in the community are against nature; truth is very few agree even though the media lies and says it’s the majority. The truth is the majority are sick of controversy from people demanding rights for things of selfish desires and not for rights of the truly defenseless abused innocent ones.   
5. Men and women have different roles in life. If a burglar is in the house at midnight, it is the man’s role to handle it, right? Or women, do you love a good fight and enjoy tackling 6’ masked men who have guns or knives? Raise your hand, women, if would say, “Honey, I’ll get it”! Sadly today in a few so called developed nations, some people due to the confusion of laws (non-Biblical) are supporting gender reversals. Such confusion sews the seeds of frustration, and proven statistically, it foments suicidal tendencies! Contrary to this is the defense of the equality of the sexes, and it is correct within the context of equal rights for women. They have gained substantial respect here in the U.S. in the workplace but concerning crimes committed against women, much more needs to be done, in particular abroad in Arab, Communist, and non-Christian nations or in about 5/7ths of the world!   
Again referring to how women are commended to be holy and sober, what happens when women are not holy but rather become loud and self-serving? The progression (as observed in Hollywood children) of the character slides downhill from disrespect on into total chaos! Each person is the principle player in the forging of their own reputation. Those seeking to take advantage of men usually ironically find men with the same nature (birds of a feather..) seeking to take advantage of them! Trying to take advantage of another pretending love (either sex) is nothing new, and everyone gets burned. Women have a disadvantage though because of their more sensitive emotions and smaller physical size.
In the 90s we had a nice Peruvian friend in her 50s that was depressed and sad due to a recent divorce. The judge awarded her the house of the ex and she sold it. In the meantime the new boyfriend, who was supposedly a rich man of a rich Spanish family said he would help her by storing her $100,000 cash in his personal safe. We soon found out she had never even been to his house! It soon came to light (after we encouraged her to go to the police) that he had played her and about 5 other women for their money and she felt horribly shamed! He went to jail, she lost it all, and she had to go on with life working minimum wage having nothing too embarrassed to even talk to her family!
6. Today many people complain about the disappearing family unit but who is to blame? Where is the fighter spirit of couples of, “we will get through this”? Do we blame the deadbeat dads? Or the deadbeat moms? Both sexes share blame in being irresponsible! Take note, young deadbeat fathers were boys who grew up under a mother (or father) that influenced their attitude about women. How the mother treated the child affirmed obedience and good behavior, or rebellion and disrespect. Kids imitate the parent’s example and values, or the lack thereof; values are caught and imitated and must be taught. Parents reap what they sew and get payback for their sins often multiplied through those closest to them.       
Sad as well, some girls and boys have grown up seeing abusive fathers degrade their mothers verbally or physically (or vice versa), and when a guy or gal imitates this horrible behavior, he (or she, as a victim to this) thinks that this is just normal life! They imitate this abuse even though they already know this behavior brings about hurt feelings, much suffering, and even divorce. No one should tolerate abuse ever because you are God’s child and of high value and esteem!
7. Here is where the breakdown begins begging the question, have the older ladies be faithful to teach the young girls at home, in the churches, and in the schools high standards and values? Are the women mentors teaching the girls to dress and act like princesses aspiring honors and achievements? My concern is this, lately women and mothers are letting girls dress too  risqué, even 12 year olds use high platform heels and short shorts, unaware of the dangerous provocations that put the girls at risk for rape and abuse? Some women dress so crazy here picking up their kids in school that the schools are now enforcing dress codes for parents!
By the time a girl is in college, an estimated 1 in 4 have been raped already! I have also known of many mothers that have prostituted their own daughters for money as well! Take into account that before the 60’s themes of “burn you bra” and be liberated message, only 2 main STDs existed, now there are dozens that are very serious causing cancer, HIV, and destroying the normal desire and pleasure that God intended to last a lifetime between married couples!
8. How sad today as well that in a majority of so called “developed” cultures women are choosing to not be mothers or married wives protected by the law. This lack of security or kids causes both men and women to miss out on many laughs and beautiful emotions, and a needed maturity. Romans 1 :27 “In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.” A few societies worldwide, due to misinformation and feminist influences are sadly not supporting women in their roles as mothers and wives. Remember, young pregnant girls need support from us and everyone! Pre 60s and the pill, The Salvation Army had many clinics nationwide for delivering babies! Everyone must always support families because we need one another to survive and to provide for what is needed!
So these verses of today (vs 4) go against the grain of what the world promotes and it is up to Christians to be very vocal to support women! (I love counter-culture challenges, don’t you?) In general both sexes without faith and obedience to God are horrible abusers of their own bodies and others wreaking havoc going against nature. I thank God again and again for the Christian values taught in the Bible that inherently invoke respect and exalt the women as of great value! And when ‘mama is happy, everyone is happy’! See Proverbs 31
The Bible has inspired women to become the liberated, dedicated, wise, good, and fun loving creatures God made them to be! We must spread this good news!
9. One disturbing part of verse 3 is, “not false accusers”, what does this mean? To invent a lie to muster sympathy and harm someone is punishable by law! In today’s language it could also imply not falsely exaggerating a contentious item being a “drama queen”, spouting out foolish words just for manipulation or revenge. All of these recent TV shows of marriage boot camps and counseling showing the women yelling and red in the face is not helpful in modeling better alternative communication methods to help us solve common relationship issues! Men and women always will accuse each other of their faults but the factor is both often forget to factor in their own irritating provocations usually started with sharp accusatory words. Everyone is always right in their own eyes, but to God we are all in great need of maturity and to be more in control of our words!
False accusations from the woman may be that of accusing the man of having another woman. If the accusation is a true one, then what is she doing with him? She needs to stop thinking that she is going to control him and fix a broken sin nature that does not want to be fixed. Only Jesus changes hearts!
The man a woman choses as a husband must first of all be a man that has proven himself worthy and faithful to God not living an addictive abusive or adulterous life. Never should a woman ever have the need to “falsely accuse” him of having a lover fishing for information to know if an affair is happening. How many men here have had to hear their wife accuse them of liking or cheating with another over and over? (Don’t raise your hands!) These and other types of accusations scar relationships, avoid them! Over time the man might erroneously conclude that he might as well have a lover, since he is going to suffer verbal abuse whether he has had one or not! Just don’t accuse and be guilty in words or in deeds!
10. One more interesting part, “not given to much wine”. Well, in our case, we are not given to any wine, but this implies that many young women have the tendency to be party girls right? It is human nature for the youth to want to have fun but if having fun includes alcohol and the starting motherhood due to being drunk one night, this is something to seriously think about and avoid!
Because the body mass of women is smaller than that of men, women get drunk easier than men. They also get addicted to drugs easier as well. This is a warning to women to not let their selves be exposed to any excess as it will create more consequences. Date rape happens often to young girls that are high or drunk and it has always been a problem for millennia not just a recent societal problem.
Alcohol is a serious problem in this country as an estimated 1 in 10 people are addicted! People who drink or get high are forcing their brains to imbalance and expend in a few hours the pleasure serotonin chemicals and later normal for them is a personality state that is bored, edgy, and violent. Be careful of what may happen to you: drug or alcohol abusers need serious help!
11.  Continuing on to the last part of today’s study, “obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed”. What does it mean? Today, after the feminist movement from the 70s, many people think that the woman being obedient to the husband is heresy! After all, the woman has rights! This is true, but each couple needs to decipher each other’s strong and weak points to keep a balance and common sense. Most women follow the man’s lead anyway unless she perceives a danger or threat, or if he is being totally anti-god and cruel.
Here is an example of how a man may lead, if the woman gets very excited about getting a nice new car with a $680 a month payment with another $200 in insurance, and the man says, “Oh no, babe we can’t afford that, it would be almost half our income,” then the woman should understand and just trust the man’s judgment on the matter! This is the essence of the idea of being obedient. It does not imply absolute blind servitude as some Christian defamers want to imply! But a woman who demands her way may make the man blaspheme!
12. I love and respect my wife that has for 25 years has been a great fighter for justice defending me and her children and helped a few thousand others in need. She woke up all hours of the night, learned new languages to communicate with us (English, Portuguese, ASL, sign language) and tolerated moving from place to place doing God’s work. I love and admire her as only 1 out of a million would do this! How lucky (God’s plans) that I could meet her!
What did the scripture teach us? Respect the women! Both women and men should study and research what makes the other sex, or their own mates, be secure, stable, and happy. What kills any relationship is a self-centered insecure jealous controlling person who demands that their needs be supplied not considering the needs of the other one. Relationships are always give and take and that must be done in love! Men also have responsibilities but that’s for later!
13. If a woman or wife claims to be a Christian but she is harsh with her tongue, and punishes the man when she doesn’t get what she wants, with addictive or unfaithful behaviors, then the man might conclude that her faith, that her Christian God must be flawed and unjust! This works vice versa, men must also be must be loving examples gentle proving their dedication to their family or their religion will be criticized as useless and hypocritical!

It is the pure, powerful, and holy women, often mothers, throughout history that have been the ones to bring about a real change in society, starting in their homes with their own children and then out in the community! Remember also that countless women are renowned professionals! Let’s pray the Lord brings us more women to organize and defend the weak, minister to the suffering, and putting into practice God’s word! Let’s pray for the women here to have the strength they need to accomplish great things for their families, church, and friends. We must denounce, expose, and encourage correction for those fallen into weakness, but honor the noble, pure, and wise and holy women! If we do not support them, then more men, women, and children around the world will continue to will suffer more and more injustices! Women with Jesus and the Holy Spirit are powerful teachers, healers, and influencers: love and support them!

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Honor Mothers!

Honor Mothers!  (Spanish quotes included)                        5-13-12   by Kelly Durant
Eph 6:2-3
2 "Honor your father and mother"-which is the first commandment with a promise- 3 "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."  

1. God expects mothers to be strong characters that defend what is right and raise their children in the knowledge of the word of God! Every mother must accept that they are influencers and leaders in society. The founder of the Salvation Army, William Booth, had a strong character, and his wife, Catherine Booth, and mother of their children had a very strong character too! They fought for women’s rights and they were the first in history to bring equality in the pulpit; in other words Catherine Booth obtained respect for a woman to spiritually teach and preach which was not accepted up until then in the late 1800’s due to her.

Did you know when the Salvation Army was founded in 1865 that 60 to 70% of the initial members were young mothers and they were valiant preachers too! And today in this Corps, we expect the mothers to be leaders not just to their children, but leaders in society too winning many souls to Jesus!

2.  Paul states that men and women, fathers and mothers, are spiritually the same in Christ.   Gal. 3:28 Ya no hay judío ni griego; no hay esclavo ni libre; no hay varón ni mujer; porque todos vosotros sois uno en Cristo Jesús.
 28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.  Women, or mothers, deserve the same respect as anyone else and sometimes deserve even more because they are sacrificial.

3.  Una madre es alguien que nos guía y nos inspira.  Ella nos ayuda a lograr nuestros sueños y deseos.
Con su sabiduría y profundidad alumbra el sendero de sus hijos y les trae alegría.     A mother is someone who guides us and inspires us. She helps us to accomplish our dreams and desires. With her wisdom and depth she lightens the way for her children bringing them happiness!

4.  “Todas las madres son ricas si aman a sus hijos.  No hay madres pobres, feas ni viejas. El amor que brindan siempre da los gozos más inefables” —Maurice Maeterlinck (1862-1949)
All mothers are wealthy if they love their children. There are no poor mothers, ugly ones, or old ones. The love they give will always bring happiness.

5.  Deuteronomy 5:16  Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
6.   Partió el pan en dos partes y las dio a los niños, que comieron con avidez.
     —No guardó nada para ella -gruñó el sargento.
     —Es que no tiene hambre -aventuró el soldado.
     
—Es que es madre —añadió el sargento.     —Victor Hugo (1802-1885
She broke the bread in two halves and gave it to the children that quickly devoured it. She kept nothing for herself, grumbled the sergeant. It is because she was not hungry, added the soldier; it is because she is the mother replied the sergeant.
7. Mi madre me decía: «Si te haces soldado, llegarás a general; si te haces monje, terminarás siendo papa.» En vez de eso, me hice pintor, y terminé siendo Picasso.  My mother told me: “If you make yourself a soldier, you will become a general, If you make yourself a monk you will become the pope”. But instead I made myself a painter and I ended up being Picasso.
8. En cierta ocasión, un niño parcialmente sordo volvió del colegio a su casa; llevaba una nota de la dirección, la cual recomendaba que los padres lo sacaran del centro docente, ya que «era demasiado falto de inteligencia para aprender» La madre del niño leyó la nota y dijo: «Mi hijo Tom no es “falto de inteligencia”. Yo misma le enseñaré.»
     Cuando Tom murió muchos años después, los estadounidenses le rindieron homenaje apagando todas las luces del país durante un minuto. Pues este Tom fue el que inventó la lámpara incandescente; y no solo eso, también inventó el fonógrafo y un rudimentario proyector de películas. En total, Thomas Edison patentó más de mil inventos.
 A mi madre le debo lo que soy!
Once there was a child that was half deaf and he returned from school to his home with a note with some instructions recommending that the parents remove their son from the educational center due to the fact that “he had too low of an intelligence to learn”. The mother of Tom read the note and said, “My son Tom is not lacking in intelligence. I personally will teach him”.
 When Tom died years later, the students rendered homage to him turning out all the lights for a minute. It was Tom that had invented the light bulb; not just that but also he invented photography and a film projector. In the end Thomas Edison had a patent on thousands of inventions. “I owe to my mother who I am!’
9. Así poseas riquezas incalculables, cofres de oro y joyas deseables,
jamás podrás ser más rico que yo: pues tuve una madre que me leyó.—Strickland Gillian (1869-1954)
If you own incalculable riches, chests of gold, coveted jewelry, you could never be richer than I, because I had a mother that read to me.
10.  Prov 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.Prov 31:10 Mujer virtuosa, ¿quién la hallará? Porque su estima sobrepasa largamente a la de las piedras preciosas.
11. Jamás en la vida encontraréis ternura mejor, más profunda, más desinteresada ni  verdadera que la de vuestra madre --Honoré de Balzac (1799-1850), novelista francés.    Never in life will you find a tenderness, a depth, a sacrificial-ness and truth better than the one found in our mother.
12.  Lo que hace maravillosa a una madre es el espíritu abnegado que la mueve a sacrificar tiempo, fuerzas y, de ser necesario, hasta la salud por el bien de su hijo. What makes a mother so wonderful is that she has a self-denying spirit that gives up all the time and strength needed, and even her own health, for the good of her son.
13. Mi vida comenzó cuando desperté y amé el rostro de mi madre. —George Eliot (1819-1880), British Novelist.  My life began when I woke up and loved the face of my mother.
14. La maternidad es la más importante de todas las profesiones. Exige más conocimientos que cualquier otro asunto relacionado con el hombre. —Elizabeth Cady Stanton (1815-1902) Motherhood is one of the most important professions there are. It demands one have more knowledge of all subjects related to man.
15. Prov 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Prov. 31:28 Se levantan sus hijos y la llaman bienaventurada;
   Y su marido también la alaba:

16.  La mano que mece la cuna, es la misma que rige el mundo. William Wallace (1819-1881) The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.

Everyone has a different memory of what their mother was like, some have better memories than others, but in the end you are here, you were fed, you did have clothes, and you do remember the time you had together, the food and the love.

It is the women, the mothers, throughout history that have been the ones to bring about a real change in society, in their homes, and with their children!  Let’s pray the Lord brings more mothers to learn about God’s word and let’s pray for them to have the strength they need to do so many things for their families, church, and friends in need.  Where there are few mothers, the world suffers!




Sunday, May 4, 2014

The Power of Positive Words

    The Power of Positive Words!                                         By Kelly Durant 5-4-14
Philippians 4:8
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
2. There was a beggar that was blind and daily he sat on the sidewalk with a cardboard sign that read, “I am blind. Please help” As usual with beggars, most people passed him by and few gave anything. Then a young lady stopped a moment and she wrote on the backside of his sign and put it up for people to see. Suddenly, people starting giving 4 times as much, and the man was very happy. What was it she wrote? It was, “It is a beautiful day, but I can’t see it.” Imagine just a minute to change a few words and things became so much better! This must be our role!
The past week I have been contemplating on our need as Christians and as a society to learn how to control our tongues better and express our words more positively! Ever notice how way too many people really do not think about what is coming out of their mouths! Like the old saying, they have the ‘foot’n mouth’ disease! I was reflecting on why many things do not get accomplished when people are asked to do something at home, in the church, in the school, in the workplace, and the conclusion is people want to be encouraged to do necessary things not be forced or nagged into doing them out of duty. And that word of encouragement requires being articulate in a positive manner!
Haven’t all the news channels been talking way too much about those who express their selves poorly and offensively, and people shoot their own selves in the foot over wrong words?  It’s time we should examine words. You must apply the Holy Spirit to determine if they are either influencing for the good or bad those around you and me!
Ecclesiastes 5:2 Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter any thing before God: for God is in heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few. Whenever you and I speak on any matter we are exposing to others who we are as a person, what we intend, and we display what good or evil is in our hearts.
3. Today focusing on Community Care and on the elderly we minister to; we must take into account words do affect people for all their life! Maj. Alejandro Castillo said that as a child some of his relatives, who didn’t like how he was an active boy annoying them, would repeat to him, “When you grow up you are only going to be good for planting potatoes!” How sad it is when people put down and humiliate others with cruel words. But I think most of us get very bothered even more so when cruel words are spouted out to children. Just think when you minister to people how many have been belittled in their past.
Children love and accept God as good. They have pure faith and Jesus said, Matthew 18:3 “And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.”  Many times older adults can be like children. But the people who enjoy scaring or humiliating those weaker than them will not go unpunished, in particular if they pretend to be Christians and the kids or adults see them as big hypocrites. Many so called atheists are kids who grew up in homes of hypocritical parents!
Matthew 18:6 “But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.”
Thank God Alejandro took this as a negative motivator to study his way to success and become a leader, but his story is not the usual one, many kids live under the condemnation of the immediate family and it is the curse of never ending discouraging words producing failed kids and later in life sad frustrated older adults. Bad words produce the curse of never getting anywhere in life due to being consumed by anger, bitterness, envy, and being unrepentant, becoming foolish wasting all good opportunities God offers.  Negative words, especially applied to kids, brings a serious discouragement on them and a great condemnation on the one who said them!
4. Our goal as a Christian is to always be bringing a word of cheer to all inspiring and loving imitating Jesus, being a light of hope in this dark cruel world full of cursing and evil words. How are we going to become one who speaks from God’s heart? First we have to change the way we think! That means a heart change to be more like how Jesus was; we need our minds and hearts rewired so we speak the things of God. Most people have a long way to grow yet. I have known old people who curse, so the habit of speaking encouraging words must start today ASAP, it’s never too early or never too late!
Luke 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.
In the verses of today from Phil 4:8 what are we commanded to think on? (so when we speak, we speak of them) “True things, honest things, just things, pure things , lovely things , things of good report; things of virtue and praise, think on these things!” So make a filter in your mind, do the words you speak serve the purpose of bringing about more truth, honesty, love, good news, virtues and praise to those at home and to those I minister to?
5. It is hard to be positive in a negative world! Don’t misunderstand that we are to be sugar coating everything we say all the time! On the flip side of what we consider positive let’s examine how there is a need for some negative words in order to accomplish a positive result.
Always remember Jesus spoke harsh words to whom? To people caught in sin, just out of bed fornicating? To tax collecting thieves? To rough fishermen who cursed like sailors?  Or to children or the elderly? No, his harsh words were directed to those who were supposed to be representing God and leadership for the nation but instead were representing Satan!
Matthew 12:34 “O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.” Matthew 23:33 “Ye serpents, ye generation of vipers, how can ye escape the damnation of hell?”
6. Imagine if you were one of these powerful religious leaders, you would not look at Jesus as a sweet motivational speaker full of the positive like a Joel Osteen preacher! You would look at Jesus and His words as a threat to your little evil empire of control, wealth gained by exploitation, and deceptive teachings!
Jesus did not praise other evil manipulators either; for example, politicians were described as having sneaky animal characteristics. Luke 13:31 The same day there came certain of the Pharisees, saying unto him, Get thee out, and depart hence: for Herod will kill thee. 32 And he said unto them, Go ye, and tell that fox, Behold, I cast out devils, and I do cures today and tomorrow, and the third day I shall be perfected. (He is implying he could cast out the devil in Herod!) Herod as evil as he was did not seek to bother Jesus either!
Loving sweet words must always be for sinners who are getting closer to God, converting more and more each week, for people who are listening to God’s word, for people who are in the end suffering inside. Loving encouraging words are for those that are not perpetuating the practice of evil employing direct deception and manipulation as the false religions and bad politicians. 
7. In general the model here is to motivate people we minister to by convicting words, with loving words. So you and I need to practice new styles of expression and speaking, and not keep on in vain trying to influence by using our own choice of words. For example, people who repeat things like, “How many times do I have to tell you”,…, You never listen to me”…, “Are you deaf”… “I told you so”…should realize that contained within their own words is the evidence their speech is being ineffective and they are not being heard as a communicator.
When someone communicates to me that I must do what they say, my first thought is I am being commanded and no one I know likes to be obliged and commanded into do anything. I try not to command anyone but if there is an immediate danger or evil, then then is the time to shout commands like, “Hey, get out the way of that car!”
Here is the misconception; it appears sometimes that some people speak as if he/she thinks that everyone around them is a brute beast and that they need to talk down to them. People do this most often with children and the elderly. Learn to change your aggressive or ordinary words for kind convincing words or nothing will get done! Like I see in the parking lots around here when someone is stopped for a few seconds and someone yells, “Get moving stupid!”  What happens in these situations?  The problem person reacts to these words and become a bigger problem because they sit there longer, not for traffic or being on the phone, but for the fact that they want to get revenge for being called stupid!
Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
 8. So how long will we live with so much back and forth and empty words that seem to be accomplishing nothing?  We must recognize the power of our words for good or for evil. Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” We must make a huge effort to break old speaking habits!
Some people live in toxic homes where they have heard their parents, and grandparents, express their selves always in some ugly manner and they keep on repeating the destructive pattern. Today is the day to start a change in how you express yourself. Break away from the ineffective clichés.   Stop the irritating speech that is meaningless and undesirable.
If you are one to like to repeat worn out clichés all the time like, “Oh my God”, then why don’t you replace it with something that might get God’s favor a little better like, “Lord, have mercy!” I know an amazing man of God, a black officer in Philadelphia and that was his favorite phrase, “Lord, have mercy!” and he meant it each time he said it! I’d ask him what is the hardest thing about your Corps? He’d answer, “Well, sometimes the homeless die overnight that sleep by the Corps front door so I have to call the police to pick them up; Lord, have mercy!”
9. I do not believe in the doctrine of using words to speak into existence blessings as some false Christian teachers do. They say to you repeat after me, “I am a child of God (true statement so far if you are Christian), I command you God to send me riches and blessings (wrong now, a false idea of blessings and of God’s workings!) But always take into account your words reap upon you a blessing or a condemnation.  Matthew 12:37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.
Also, don’t talk too much or be as in Ecclesiastes 5:3 b; and a fool's voice is known by multitude of words. Here is a reality of words, in the Old Testament if you were caught cursing your parents or pronouncing some destructive prophecy over a person you did not like, you were to suffer “the death”, a sentence of getting stoned to death! God takes seriously our words! I am always reminded of the bumper sticker, “May the Lord give to you all that you desire on me!” This is true in many regards, words will always come back to bite you! We reap what we sew, either words of blessings, or words of cursing!
Start measuring and thinking hard about the words you will use! Words have many functions but for the Christian they must be pure and for good reason to promote God’s will. Ecclesiastes 10:12 “The words of a wise man's mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow up himself. “  Many words may actually make us tired and frustrated. Proverbs 10:19 “In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.” Once you have spoken, don’t repeat and repeat. Jesus said in, Matthew 6:7 “But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.” Even God gets tired of empty words and only wants prayers from the heart!
10. Why do Jesus’ words encourage us so much? Because He is so positive! All the time, “Love, love God, love one another!”  Matt 5: “Blessed are the poor, blessed are the meek” on and on. Jesus knew how to motivate us not by the law commands but by inspiring us with the promise of eternal life and rewards in heaven! To hear people’s same old words often is a torment, but we are free from discouraging words when we hear Jesus’ words.
What are you going to do in reaction to this? Think and speak the true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report of virtue and praise things!  Every Christian must pray desperately to change how they express their self! Your peace and future with God and others depends on it! I am included in this as well! Be careful and not be a person who is nice in public but at home complains about everything!  Psalm 32:9 Be ye not as the horse, or as the mule, which have no understanding: whose mouth must be held in with bit and bridle, lest they come near unto thee. Job 9:20 If I justify myself, mine own mouth shall condemn me: if I say, I am perfect, it shall also prove me perverse.
The words you share at rest homes, with people of all ages can greatly lift their spirits! Here is a great verse to finish this important lesson on our words with, let’s all repeat it…Psalm 19:14 “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.”